“it’s not easy”

May 31st, 2006 by edspjc

to smile;

to apologise;

to be unselfish;

to admit mistakes;

to enjoy your work;

to laugh at yourselves;

to think and then act;

to forgive and forget;

to control and tamper;

to make someone happy;

to learn from mistakes;

to respond and not reach;

to be honest and truthful;

to refrain from criticisms;

to shoulder deserved blame;

to keep cool when provoked;

to listen without interrupting;

to respect other’s point of view;

to do a little more than expected;

to be well mannered to near and dear ones.

But it is worth it.

“Life After Love…”

May 28th, 2006 by edspjc

So, you’ve found out that Mr. or Miss Right isn’t the soul mate you’ve always dreamed about. Now what? The period of loss and pain doesn’t have to extend on to an eternity of what ifs. After spending a few days wallowing in self-pity, you’ll probably want to start making a few steps towards life after love. To help ease this transition, try a few of the following ideas.

Keep a daily journal.
Letting loose on your emotions is a quick and self-healing way to recover from incidents of loss and pain. This is especially true of keeping a journal. Make a commitment to write for at least a few minutes every day.

Learn at least one new thing a day.
Keep your mind busy with new information. Whether you decide to learn a new word or how to do something new on your computer, it will help you keep moving forward instead of looking back.

Take a daily walk.
Get yourself out and about with a 20 to 30 minute walk. Just the constant, repetitive motion of moving your legs one after another is enough to help you put things in perspective.

Go out with yourself.
Just because you are not attached to someone doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy going out. Think of it as a chance to go to all the places you’ve always wanted to go.

Develop a hobby.
Maybe there is something you’ve always wanted to learn how to do. Now is the perfect opportunity to develop it! Try anything from bicycling, joining a walking club, sewing, bodyboarding or surfing, learning how to watercolor, or cooking.