*NAGTATAKA KA BA KUNG BAKIT KA PA SINGLE?*

SINGLE: Minsan ayos lang kase free na free ka gawin kung ano ang gusto mo o kaya makakapunta ka kung saan mo gusto pumunta pero kung minsan, lalo na’t malamig ang hangin o kaya maganda ung view, magwiwish ka na sana may yumayakap sa yo, hahalikan ka sa noo at tititignan ka ng parang ikaw na ata ang pinakamagandang babae sa mundo. nakakamiss yun. Kaya heto, susubukan ko bilangin ang mga dahilan kung bakit single pa kayo.Gaano katagal na ba kayo walang nagiging boyfriend?

*1. Masyadong independent* baka naman masyado mo napoproject na kaya mong mabuhay ng wala silang lahat,ayan tuloy parang hindi nila maramdaman na kailangan mo rin sila kaya dun nalang sila sa taong tingin nila ay magkakaron sila ng silbi.

*2. Mataas ang standards mo* siguro hindi na natanggal sa isip mo ung pangarap mo nung bata ka pa. aba,kelangan mo na gumising sa katotohanan na walang ideal guy. ok cge, kung makita mo nga ung hinahanap mo na gwapong matalino na mayaman na mabait pero nung nakasama mo naman eh nakita mo hindi pala pantay ang kuko niya sa hinlalaki o kaya naman sobrang bad breath niya sa umaga o kaya naman daig pa ang tambucho sa lakas manigarilyo…oh eh di turn-off ka na? kung lahat ng tao ay katulad mo na mataas ang standards, malamang wala ng magboyfriend at maggirlfriend ngayon. puro friends nalang.

*3. ubod ka ng kasungitan* maski naman kahit sino hindi masarap lapitan at kausapin ang taong mukhang nangangain ng tao tapos liligawan pa? dapat kc kahit konti maging approachable ka naman para kahit na hindi ka kagandahan, madidiskubre niya na masarap ka palang kausap at masaya kang kasama.

*4. masama ang ugali* kung papipiliin ako kung sa masungit at sa masama ang ugali, dun na ko sa masungit! ang masungit kc, hindi likas na itim ang budhi nyan, may taglay na istorya sa likod ng simangot niya. sabihan mo lang yan ng ‘peek-a-boo’ BAKA ngitian ka na. ibang istorya na kase ang masama ang ugali dahil mula pa yang ugali na yan sa kaibuturan ng kanyang mga balunbalunan. sa una mabait pero madidiskubre mo na parang trapo ang tao kung tratuhin nito. tsk tsk tsk. pero hindi pa naman huli ang lahat, kung kaya mo pa magbago, bigyan mo ng pagkakataon ang sarilli mo magbago . magdasal ka kay lord. ng mataimtim ha.

*5. nagkukulong sa bahay* walang makaka-appreciate sa panloob o panlabas na beauty mo kung nagkukulong ka lang sa bahay . ok, nanjan nga ang nanay mo para sabihin na maganda ka pero im sure umay na umay na rin yan sa pagmumukha mo kaya mas maigi kung lumabas ka… pagkagaling sa office, pwede ka magmall o kya gumimik kasama mga officemates mo, o kaya naman sumali sa mga organization sa simbahan or sa neighborhood.

*6. mukha kang losyang * ito ang kadalasang krimen ng mga single. hindi ka nagbibigay ng panahon para ayusin ang sarili physically. at bakit pa nga ba e wala ka naman dahilan para mag-ayos, diba? MALI!!! dapat nga lalo ka mag-ayos para makita ang marketability mo. hindi krimen ang maging vain kahit konti. did u know na ang ratio ng lalaki sa babae ay 4:1? kaya lola, magsimula ka na mag-ayos at baka yung crush mo ay maagaw pa ng mga intrimitida sa paligid mo.

*7. masyadong magaling* medyo sensitive itong tapic na ito dahil nasasagasaan na ang male ego dito eh. oo, may ibang lalake na nabuburaot dahil mas magaling at mas marunong ang babae sa kanila. hindi na natin ito problema dahil malamang insecurity nila ang bumubulong sa kanila pero minsan kase hindi na makatarungan na laging nai-inferior ang lalake. kailangan maramdaman din nila saiyo na hindi mo sila ia-under the saya if maging girlfriend ka nila. hindi ko rin sinasabi na icompromise mo ang talents mo, ano bang magagawa ko kung likas na talentadong bata ka pero ang tamang gawin ay wag naman ipagdukdukan na sobrang galing mong tao. wag na wag mong kalimutan ng may 2 klaseng yabang dito sa mundo. wag kang mang-intimidate kung ayaw mong maintimidate.

*8. sobrang busy* alam mo ba ung kantang ‘Narda’? ganyan ang mangyayari sa iyo, hanggang kanta nalang ang aabutin ng nagkakagusto sayo dahil maski pagpluck ng kilay mo wala kang time.

*9. dala ang bigat ng kahapon * may kasabihan nga, "how can u look forward when u keep looking back?" walang mangyayari sa love life mo kung dala mo pa ang kabiguan na dinulot ng nakaraan mo. walang sense ang magpakabitter dahil in the end, lalo ka lang papanget. panget na nga, bitter pa. tsaka wag kang matakot masaktan kung gusto mo magmahal muli. laging kaakibat ng love ang pain dahil hindi ka masasaktan kung hindi ka nagmahal. at isa pa, wag ka ring matakot na kunin ang pagkakataon kung nandiyan na sa harap mo. pano mo malalaman na masarap ang chocolate kung hindi mo titikman ?

*10. masyadong masyado* masyado maganda, masyadong matalino, masyadong talented, at masyado mayaman. minsan ito ang mga nagiging factor kung bakit walang gustong manligaw sayo. pero hindi mo naman ito kasalanan diba? katulad din ito ng scenario sa #7. siguro mas maigi kung humble lang ka, wag mayabang, at imbis na maging hambog, share nalang the blessing. hindi ka lang maganda/matalino/talented/mayaman,mabait pa. im sure, lahat mahuhumaling sayo. at eto ang pinakamatindi sa lahat:

*11. Wala sa guhit ng palad mo ang magkaboyfriend* shiyet ang saklap naman nito kung ganun nga. hindi purkit na hindi ka na magkakaboyfriend ay loser ka na. malamang may nakalaan na plano sayo si Lord kaya gusto niya na wala kang boyfriend. siguro kaya wala kang boyfriend dahil kelangan ang full attention mo sa pagtulong sa pagtaguyod ng pamilya mo, baka yayaman ka at magiging tagapagmana mo mga pamangkin mo, baka kelangan ang full time and support mo sa organization mo…maraming dahilan eh pero nakakasiguro naman ako na walang bagay na nangyayari sayo na hindi kagustuhan ng nasa itaas. laging may greater purpose kung bakit nangyayari ang nangyayari.

~Kaya kung halimbawang may darating, wag na pakyeme. kung hindi mo type ang lalapit sayo, let it go gracefully dahil mahirap na at baka balikan ka ng karma. kung nandyan na , gawin nalang ang best para magstay siya sa buhay mo at hindi ka na nagtataka pa kung bakit single ka.

FASHION TIPS FOR WOMEN: DRESS RIGHT FOR YOUR TYPE

So you’ve heard this a zillion times but it’s actually what really it takes to look as smashing as a super model. And the clichéd phrase is “Dress right for your type.” Just what exactly it means literally is known by all but life would be much easier if it were spelt out. Finally, here it is your complete handbook to being fashionably dressed.

• Figure out your body type: once you know what body type you are you can read tips exactly for your kind.

• Follow tips specific to your size (weight and height) and age as well.

ALL YOU WANTED TO KNOW (FOR ALL WOMEN)

• Always try to wear free flowing fabrics in one tone to achieve a long and slim look. Try fabrics like chiffon or georgette for dresses.

• Please wear only your size. Oversized clothes never have or will make look anyone any good. Stay away from anything that’s baggy or exaggerated as far as size goes no matter how comfortable.

• Be careful while adding on accessories. Never add on anything just for heck of it. Your accessories speak more about you than your clothes do. So watch out there.

• Make sure whatever jeweler you wear blends well with your ensemble.

• Wear belts only if you have an extremely thin waist. (I know this is a hard one.)

• Wear clothes you are comfortable in and that reflect your personality. You’ll undoubtedly look your best in them.

• Cleverly accessorize your look by adding a scarf or a stole for the added effect.

• Before picking up your clothes read the wash care and after care instructions carefully. Never buy on an impulse something that might cost you more than its cost for maintenance.

• Invest in a basic wardrobe, shoes, and bags. Mix and match the rest of the things picked up every season or even stuff picked up from flea markets.

• Form your own style statements and avoid following fashion trends blindly. Always have a back-up classic wardrobe and experiment with new things only to an extent.

BODY TYPE SPECIFIC FASHION TIPS

Fashion tips for petite women:

• If you’ve a short neck avoid wearing high collared clothes. Avoid short necklaces too. To elongate your neck, wear a deep neck and a long necklace that falls few inches above your navel.

• Wearing shoes with strings will make you appear even shorter. Avoid that at all costs. Wearing an open shoe with nothing at the ankle, just a strap to hold the toes together will make your legs look longer.

• Do not wear over all prints. They’ll make you thinner. Wear prints that have something here or there and preferably over your figure’s assets (like well shapes abs, tones arms, etc) to catch more attention in that area.

• Add a belt or a scarf to your skirt or pants that hangs downward toward your legs. It will add height to them.

• Wear contrasting colors and fitted lines to flatter your figure.

Fashion tips for tall women:

• You can indulge in everything to be avoided by petite women. And stay away from all suggestions made to them.

• To cut height around your waist area wear your tops over pants or skirts.

• Big belts will work fine for you just don’t wear them too tight.

• Avoid very short skirts. They’ll show off your never-ending legs and will add height.

• Similarly very long skirts will make your taller.

Fashion tips for pear-shaped women (heavy on the lower body):

• Vertical lines will definitely slim you down.

• Wear a lighter color on top and a really dark shade on your lower body. This way the light colored top catches more attention and your dark lower remains unnoticed.

• Remember to make your bottom smaller you can add broadness to your upper body to make your look more proportionate and thinner down below. E.g.: wear dresses or tops with small soft shoulder pads.

• Avoid skirts that are tapered. Free flowing a-line skirts and dresses are the key to camouflage saddlebags.

Fashion tips for apple-shaped women (heavy on the top):

• Avoid tops with a lot of detailing and ruffling or rouching. Keep it simple and clean with soft flowing fabrics.

• Do not wear very tight or clingy synthetic tops that enhance your problematic areas.

• Go for light colors for you lowers and wear darker shades on top.

• Use detailing, pleating, etc on your skirt or pant to attract attention there.

• V-necks will make your bosoms look smaller.

• Wear a wrap top to cover your stomach. Using layering in the same color and fabric here will have a slimming effect.

• Under no circumstances wear anything shoulder padded. Wear thin and light materials on top only.

Now whether you are tall or small, fat, or thin on top or bottom you know the basics to follow and dress right for your type. Start experimenting, suit your personal needs, and make new rules that work even better. Happy shopping!

Pay Attention! Mastering Communication Skills with Women

• One of the biggest complaints women have about men is they just don’t listen. This can cause big problems in the relationship. Sure, you may hear the words, but are you really absorbing what she is saying? It’s a serious mistake not to pay attention or take her words seriously and could mean the ultimate failure of the relationship if that bad habit continues.

• Women don’t just talk to hear their own voices. Most times they’re trying to get a point across to you. Listen…I mean really listen to what they’re telling you. Granted, sometimes it may seem as if she doesn’t have anything of real importance to say, and in your opinion, she’s just babbling on about nothing. But you’d better listen anyway.

• If your mind is wandering or you interrupt her with a comment about something totally unrelated to what she’s talking about, she’ll feel you simply don’t care about her and this can lead to hurt feelings and resentment on her part. Over time, this can seriously damage the relationship or cause its demise. You should never dismiss what a woman has to say as trivial or ignore her. Don’t just hear the words — absorb them like a sponge.

• Sometimes a woman may feel the need to vent her feelings if she’s upset or frustrated about something in her life. It may or may not have anything to do with you personally, but you are her sounding board. She’ll likely ask you later what you think, so you better be paying attention so your answer makes sense and relates to the subject at hand. If you’ve been tuning her out, your inattention will likely anger her, cause hurt feelings and resentment, and make her feel unimportant to you.

• Show her you’re interested in what she has to say. Ask her pertinent questions and listen to her answers. Sympathize with her and show her you understand how she’s feeling.

• To maintain a strong relationship with her, you must be her best friend and allow her to feel free to communicate with you about anything. Women are more verbal than men. She needs to know you care enough about her to listen when she speaks.

• Think about it…how would you feel if you were telling her about an important event in your life and she interrupts with, "I saw the cutest dress today that would match my new shoes just perfectly." How would you feel? You’d probably be taken aback and think she couldn’t care less about what you were saying to her. It wouldn’t make you feel very important to her, would it? Of course it wouldn’t.

• Mutual respect is listening to one another and caring about one another’s thoughts, feelings, wants, and needs. It’s taking into consideration the feelings of the other person as well as your own feelings, particularly when making decisions that affect both of you. It’s just that simple.

• There is nothing so frustrating to a woman than when she is pouring out her heart and soul to you only to realize you haven’t been listening at all. Whenever a woman begins a conversation with, "We need to talk" or "I want to talk to you"…it’s time to tune out everything else going on in your brain and listen to every word she says. Those two phrases are an indication she’s about to say something important and you need to pay attention.

• Learning to listen is a big part of communication. The ability to communicate is a very important part of every relationship and that skill will serve you well in many aspects of life. Mastering the art of communication, including listening, is vital to your relationships with women…

One of The Main Reasons Why Relationships Fall Apart

——-Want To Strengthen Your Relationship?

• Open your mouth.

What do I mean? Talk ? say what’s on your mind. Walking around with a chip on your shoulder will not strengthen your relationship. It will only create more distance between you and your mate. If you can’t find the right words to say, write a letter. You may think that not saying something will make the issue or problem go away ? it won’t. What it will do is build resentment towards your mate and open up the door for other problems to crawl in.

• Zip it.

You must think I’m nuts telling you to talk and now I’m telling you to zip it. What I mean is this ? after you have said your piece, listen with your heart for understanding instead of gathering information to be used as ammunition. Do your best to not interrupt while your mate is speaking.

• Use tact.

Say what’s on your mind honestly and with as much love, kindness, respect and consideration. Remove criticism, contempt and defensiveness from your delivery. In your reply, use words like, "So what I hear you saying is??" or "If I heard you correctly, what you mean is this?? Statements like these let your mate know that you care.

• Fix it.

Repair any damage done in an argument immediately. If you’ve said something you know you shouldn’t have said, apologize today ? not tomorrow and never go to sleep without saying "I love you." There is no guarantee that you will wake up.

• Let it flow.

Don’t expect conflict to be resolved once and for all. Allow for continued discussion. Effective communication takes time. Trial and error is necessary in order to become a master at any skill. The same holds true for great communication.

• Take a break.

If the disagreement begins and continues in a harsh way, take a break and continue later. Little is accomplished with two hot heads in the room. Better results are guaranteed when you are calm, cool and collected.

• Own up.

I’m a huge fan of self-responsibility. Stop blaming your mate and acknowledge your responsibility in what’s causing troubles in your relationship. If you screwed up and know you are dead wrong for what you did or said, own up!

• When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece."

:p

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Humor has long been considered one of the most effective tools to judge the quality of any relationship.

If there is laughter present you can assume that the relationship is a healthy one. When the laughter ceases you can be quite certain that the relationship is on the down slide.

This laughter barometer can be applied to any relationship at home, at work and at play. Laughter means that you’re having fun and fun means that things are going well.. Take a look at the relationships around you. Do the couples laugh a lot together? Has the laughter stopped in some of your relationships?

Here are a few ideas you can use to make certain that laughter remains an ever present reality in your relationships thus ensuring their quality and endurance. Remember introducing humor to previously humorless relationships might take time but the results will be worth the effort.

Start slowly by working on your own fun loving, cheery disposition.

Laughter and humor are contagious so it won’t be long before others catch the bug.

* Remember that a sense of humor is learned, not inherited.

* Commit to becoming a humor hound. Look for humor everywhere.

When something strikes you funny enjoy it. Let the laughter flow. After the funny event has passed recall it and enjoy it and laugh again.

* Begin to cultivate an atmosphere of humor and laughter in your relationships. Try to enjoy and share humor as often as you can.

* If you don ‘t laugh as much as you used to and want to correct the situation start associating with humorous, fun loving people and avoid the downers.

* Learn to laugh at yourself. If you don’t, you leave the job to others.

* Look for funny items in your newspaper and cut them out and share them. I recall reading the want ads one night and discovered this gem : " The successful applicant should have 203 years experience." Obviously the writer meant to say 2 or 3 years experience. I immediately cut it out and placed it in my collection for future use.

* Encourage others to share their humor. Listen and appreciate it when they do. When someone sees that you have enjoyed their humorous contribution they will be eager to continue sharing.

* In my full day humor workshops I always ask the participants to break up into groups and begin sharing the funniest thing that has ever happened to them. The laughter that this simple activity generates is a joy to behold. Try this will your friends sometime.

* Collect cartoons and jokes and put them on display on the fridge or the bulletin board. Make sure to avoid racist, sexist or filthy humor. The is plenty of good clean humor to go around without resorting to these. Remember that there is a difference between dirty and earthy humor. I personally like earthy humor. I don’t appreciate dirty material.

* Watch comedy movies and television programs as often a possible.

* Use humor to neutralize conflict in your relationships. When things get tense use self deprecating humor to lighten things up. I remember one evening having an argument with my wife, Carol. In the heat of the moment she said something totally out of character. She said something hurtful. In my surprise I looked at her and said, " Carol, when you say things like that you stoop to my level." She started to laugh and so did I.

It wasn’t long before things were back to normal.

Good luck on your journey to HA HA Land….

1. When a girl says she’s sad, but she isn’t crying,
it means she’s crying in her heart.

2. When she ignores you after you’ve done
something wrong, it’s best to give her some time to
cool down before touching her heart with an
apology.

3. A girl can’t find anything to hate about the guy
she loves (which is why it is so hard for her to ‘get
over him’ after the relationship’s over.)

4. If a girl loves a guy, he will always be on her
mind every minute of the day, even though she
flirts with other guys.

5. When the guy she likes smiles and stares deep
into her eyes, she will melt.

6. A girl likes to hear compliments, but usually not
sure how to react to them.

7. When a particular guy flirts with a girl very often,
a girl would start thinking the guy likes her. So if
you treat a girl just as a friend, go easy on the
smiles and stare ok?

8. If you don’t like a girl who likes you, break it to
her gently.

9. If a girl starts avoiding you after you reject her,
leave her alone for a while. If you still treat her as a
friend, talk to her.

10. Girls enjoy talking about what they feel. Music,
poetry, drawings and writing are ways of
expressing themselves (which explains why most
girls like writing journals).